My Two Sides

Why did this have to happen to us?
You may never know the answer to that.
Am I being punished?
How could you think of anything so precious as being a punishment?
I feel so empty.
Yes, but this was not always so. Remember how long you had her with you.
I don't know if I can bear this pain.
It is tremendous, but you chose to take your pain - and hers.
>Would it have been better if I had not known you at all?
No. You are so blessed to have been touched by this life.
I wanted you so badly.
Oh, but she wanted you too. You were chosen from all the others.
I had so much love to give.
And you did. She knew nothing but your love.
I would have been a good mother to you.
You were. You made the decision only a good mother could.
I wanted to protect you from the world.
You did. She experienced only the comfort and safety of your womb.
I wanted to have you with me forever.
She will always be with you. To love, time does not exist.
I would give anything to hold you once more.
You will hold her in your heart forever.

Written by Sherri whose daughter, Madison Anne, was born and died on August 26, 1995
after an interrupted pregnancy at 20 weeks due to anencephaly and spina bifida

Our "Lanee" Rose

We wanted to keep you here,
But, it wasn't meant to be.
Instead GOD brought you to him,
For all of Heaven to see.
You are the girl we wished for,
But I guess GOD had wished too.
It's not for us to understand,
His "bigger" plan for you!
Although you're not here with us,
You are never far away.
We think about you constantly,
Each and every day.
GOD has taught us so much,
With your birth it's true.
You've given us direction,
We now know what to do.
We promise you to change our lives,
As GOD wants us to do.
As a tribute to you dear,
Because we love and miss you!!!

Lanee's Daddy
Larry Martin

A Mother’s Love

A mother’s love is something that starts right from conception
You form a bond with your baby full of love and deep affection
Before you even know it you’ve planned their entire future
It may be a little optimistic but it’s only mother nature
But then one day you’re told the news you never want to hear
‘Your baby’s not forming right’, it’s every mothers fear
So now your future life has be tragically torn apart
To be replaced by grief and a pain that fills your heart
You’ll often sit and wonder what it was that you did wrong
To be denied the life of the child you’d carried for so long
All those medical words race round your head again
But the out come of it was if he lived he’d suffer pain
And so you decided that you had to let him go
You did what was best for him because you really love him so
Even though he’s gone and you’re no longer a mother to be
Just remember it was your love that helped to set him free


They brought you for us to hold
You were too small to be born today
Your hands, your feet and ears so perfect
in every way
As your father and mother
we shared dreams as one
Would you be a daughter or a son?
As we held you in our arms,
our little son
We realized our dreams are
no longer real ones.
You will never smell the flowers,
hear the rain,
chase a butterfly
or have a lot of fun.
You will never feel the sun.
Good-bye, our little one.


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