Why we make a "Heartbreaking Choice"

Pregnancy does not end happily for everyone. Sadly, some parents receive grim news that something has gone horribly wrong with their pregnancy, an event that in most cases was planned and much wanted. As a result, they are faced with making a difficult decision about whether to continue with the pregnancy. We realize that all parents make a loving choice, one they feel is best for their family; however, regardless of the anomaly found, making that choice can be one of the most difficult ordeals anyone can face.

When facing a diagnosis of a severe or fatal birth defect, or you have to consider your own health or the life of another child (such as in the case of selective reduction) it is the hardest decision of your life. All you ever want for your child is the best, most loving environment possible, to offer protection from suffering and pain. How can we offer protection when that child is still in the womb?

Making the “Heartbreaking Choice” to terminate a pregnancy is never easy. It is fraught with difficult questions, with love, and a fervent desire to prevent suffering. At this crossroad, terminating a pregnancy is sometimes the kindest path we can take. We make these choices out of love and compassion.

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Books on Loss and Grief

Our Heartbreaking Choices: Forty-Six Women Share Their Stories of Interrupting a Much-Wanted Pregnancy

The Dive :: A Memoir

A Time to Decide a Time to Heal: For Parents Making Difficult Decisions About Babies They Love

Precious Lives Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide

Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart, Revised Edition: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death

A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss

Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and Their Families

Difficult Decisions: For Families Whose Unborn Baby Has a Serious Problem

Books for Fathers, Family, Children and Friends

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives

For Better or Worse: For Couples Whose Child Has Died

How to Say it When You Don't Know What to Say: The Right Words For Difficult Times

A Guide For Fathers: When A Baby Dies

When Your Friend's Child Dies: A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend

When Pregnancy Fails: Families Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death

What You Can Say When You Don't Know What to Say: Reaching Out to Those Who Hurt

Books about Trying Again and Pregnancy after Loss

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss

Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss

Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death