A Brief Note of Encouragement

By Someone Who Has Been There

Dear AHC Moms and Dads,
I just wanted to send a brief note of encouragement to you.

In 1998, my husband and I chose to end a Trisomy 21 pregnancy in which the fetus had several major defects. We found out by amniocentesis and ultrasound.

Even though we already had a healthy two-year-old daughter at the time, we still felt that our lives had been ripped out from under us. We were both young with no family history of birth defects. We were devastated. Moreover, we lived in an area where there was a significant population of uninformed, judgmental, anti-choice individuals, which made our tragedy even more difficult to deal with. It was quite a while before we were ready to try again.

In 2002 we did try again and we gave birth to a beautifully healthy, happy baby boy! He is wonderful and he and our now eight-year-old daughter are the joy of our lives. God is a good God and He wants good things for us. Seek Him and don't give up!


Books on Loss and Grief

Our Heartbreaking Choices: Forty-Six Women Share Their Stories of Interrupting a Much-Wanted Pregnancy

The Dive :: A Memoir

A Time to Decide a Time to Heal: For Parents Making Difficult Decisions About Babies They Love

Precious Lives Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide

Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart, Revised Edition: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death

A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss

Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and Their Families

Difficult Decisions: For Families Whose Unborn Baby Has a Serious Problem

Books for Fathers, Family, Children and Friends

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives

For Better or Worse: For Couples Whose Child Has Died

How to Say it When You Don't Know What to Say: The Right Words For Difficult Times

A Guide For Fathers: When A Baby Dies

When Your Friend's Child Dies: A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend

When Pregnancy Fails: Families Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death

What You Can Say When You Don't Know What to Say: Reaching Out to Those Who Hurt

Books about Trying Again and Pregnancy after Loss

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss

Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss

Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death