Lovingly Dedicated to All who have made
"A Heartbreaking Choice"

This website supports women who have made the "Heartbreaking Choice" to terminate a much wanted pregnancy. For those who have undergone a pregnancy termination due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health, or for the health of another fetus (selective reduction). If you have had a pregnancy termination for medical reasons, we are here for you. You'll find articles on how to deal with the grief, stories from women just like you, who have have made this Heartbreaking Choice to end a much wanted pregnancy.

Although it is estimated that between 80 and 95 percent of parents receiving a severe prenatal diagnosis choose to end the pregnancy, those who face this nightmare often feel alone. There is very little in the way of support programs for them. With this site and the dedication of courageous parents willing to reach out, we hope to create a safe haven of encouragement, validation, hope and healing.

If you are Uncertain about your decision, we have several resources that you may find hellpful, from Books & Videos to stories from women who have had to make this "Heartbreaking Choice" and what influenced their decision making process.

Official "Heartbreaking Choice" Discussion Groups

This is the official "A Heartbreaking Choice" support group, and is a private, membership only discussion group where those who have undergone a pregnancy termination due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health, or for the health of another fetus can get unconditional support. If you would like a completely secure, private place to discuss your loss with others who have been through this “Heartbreaking choice" please click HERE for access to our Official Discussion Groups.

Listserv Mailing List

The "A Heartbreaking Choice" (AHC) mailing list is a closed and moderated mailing list designed to protect your privacy but provide e-mail with other parents (Dads are included) who have ended a pregnancy either due to birth defects or risk to wellbeing of the mother. It is available to anyone with an email address who has ended a wanted pregnancy.

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Share With Us

If you are a parent who has ended a pregnancy and would like to contribute your story to this site, please send your personal story, poetry, journal entry, suggestions, etc. to us. If you prefer to email us directly please do so at:
info at aheartbreakingchoice.com (to help curtail spam, please remove the spaces and insert the @ character in the above email address.)

Please remember that in order for us to respond to any questions or to send you a link when your memorial or story has been posted, you must use a valid return email address. All correspondence is held in the strictest confidence, and we will never post your name or personal information without your permission.

Memorial Rose Garden

A special place to post a memorial in honor of your cherished baby.

We'd like to extend a special thank you to Maribeth Wilder-Doerr, who made this website and its extended network of support possible. This creation began in her heart ... and all the parents who have benefited from her care will be forever grateful.

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In Memory of Dr. George Tiller
August 8, 1941 - May 31, 2009

This web site was designed to offer information and support for parents who have terminated a much wanted pregnancy due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health, or for the health of another fetus (selective reduction.) It is maintained by volunteers and is solely for informational purposes. The authors of this site are not trained medical professionals. The information contained herein is not intended to be, and should not be used as, a substitute for medical treatment by a health care professional. It is solely intended as an informational and support site. Please seek advise from your professional medical caregiver. The authors of this site can not be held legally responsible for any information contained herein. aheartbreakingchoice.com presents these stories, articles and links as is, without any guarantee express or implied, and is not liable for any loss or damage caused by a user’s dependence on information obtained from this website.


Books on Loss and Grief

Our Heartbreaking Choices: Forty-Six Women Share Their Stories of Interrupting a Much-Wanted Pregnancy

The Dive :: A Memoir

A Time to Decide a Time to Heal: For Parents Making Difficult Decisions About Babies They Love

Precious Lives Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide

Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart, Revised Edition: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death

A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss

Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and Their Families

Difficult Decisions: For Families Whose Unborn Baby Has a Serious Problem

Books for Fathers, Family, Children and Friends

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives

For Better or Worse: For Couples Whose Child Has Died

How to Say it When You Don't Know What to Say: The Right Words For Difficult Times

A Guide For Fathers: When A Baby Dies

When Your Friend's Child Dies: A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend

When Pregnancy Fails: Families Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death

What You Can Say When You Don't Know What to Say: Reaching Out to Those Who Hurt

Books about Trying Again and Pregnancy after Loss

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss

Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss

Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death